Originally Posted by abaya

Seriously... it's not a big deal. Any women who would someone hold it against you for not staying hard the first time you have sex is not a woman worth dating, in my opinion. It's a completely natural response. There is no need to feel that you have to "perform" perfectly the first time around. You're human, not superman or a porn god. Just be honest with her about it, and if it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. Be relaxed about THAT reality, and the situation will be fine. She doesn't need you to impress her; she needs you to be sincere, humble, and honest. Contrary to popular belief, that's what earns most women's respect in bed... your character, not the actions of your penis.