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Originally Posted by Dizzy24
......I am being the same as some of these women, I have 2 lovely children, my husband always wanted 1, it took ages to persuade him for no.2 , he was reluctant throughout the pregnancy and when our daughter was born he did fall in love with her but took quite a while to 'bond', unlike our first born, a boy.
Apparently I promised him I would never nag for more, here I am with my 7 yr old son and 4 yr old daughter and desperate for '1 more', I have raised the issue so many times over the last 2 yrs he is sick of it and reminds me of my 'promise'. Thing is I cant get past this baby urge, I desperatly want to and move on but keep hoping he will change his mind.
Am I being unreasonable?
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Yes and I think you're wanting another kid has only unrealistic reasons behind it. Being pregnant gets you attention. New babies get attention.
Babies are completely dependent on you; they're cuddly and don't talk back.
Having a baby/toddler at home is a blanket excuse for anything and everything, "I couldn't do (insert unfun activity), because the baby (insert baby activity)." New babies give you great boobs.
New babies make you tired. They destroy your body. They destroy intimacy.
They can't talk, they can only cry. They poop a LOT. They will eventually drain the already stretched educational dollar, not to mention the household budget.
Stop raising the issue. Nag enough and he may go where he won't have to hear it.
Be grateful for what you have and use your time to nurture the two you had and agreed upon instead of robbing them of your time because of another kid.