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Acetylene · 12-03-2008, 02:43 PM

Penises can be extremely scary, like Hyacinth says. If you have touched and gone down on her, and she hasn't touched your penis at ALL, then she is scared of it for whatever reason.

When I was 16, I feared that A) If I touched a penis it would immediately impregnate me and B) If I touched a penis that would make me a whore. Neither of these is logical but that's what I thought.

My general fear of penis went away very quickly after touching one, but I did need to be persuaded to do so. He wasn't rude or pushy, but he explained that nothing bad would happen, and we wouldn't do anything I didn't want, but it would feel great if I would just hold it. Lo and behold, nothing bad happened.

I planned very specifically to wait until after I graduated high school to have sex. This delay was important to me. It was arbitrary, but I felt that after I reached that milestone I would be ready to cope with the potential consequences of sex, and not before.

I had a boyfriend for 3 years who knew about my sexual "due date" and waited patiently. After graduation I was good to my word and continued to date (and have sex with) him for 2 more years. He was an ass in a lot of other ways, and a colossal waste of time, but he WAS very patient and in this regard he was a good boyfriend and I appreciated that.

I happened to have a specific timeframe in mind, but she might not. You may be able to get her to define one that she feels comfortable with... start suggesting ridiculously faraway dates (Never...wedding night... 25th birthday) and let her narrow it down to something closer to truth.

Alternatively, you can try what my boyfriend did with me, and try to get her to just touch or hold your penis with no strings attached. Explain that nothing else will happen and you will still love her afterwards regardless, but you would really appreciate it. She should soon feel silly just holding a perfectly good, no-longer-scary penis and will look for something more interesting to do with it!

12-03-2008, 02:43 PM	#25 (permalink)
Acetylene Addict Location: under a rock	Penises can be extremely scary, like Hyacinth says. If you have touched and gone down on her, and she hasn't touched your penis at ALL, then she is scared of it for whatever reason. When I was 16, I feared that A) If I touched a penis it would immediately impregnate me and B) If I touched a penis that would make me a whore. Neither of these is logical but that's what I thought. My general fear of penis went away very quickly after touching one, but I did need to be persuaded to do so. He wasn't rude or pushy, but he explained that nothing bad would happen, and we wouldn't do anything I didn't want, but it would feel great if I would just hold it. Lo and behold, nothing bad happened. I planned very specifically to wait until after I graduated high school to have sex. This delay was important to me. It was arbitrary, but I felt that after I reached that milestone I would be ready to cope with the potential consequences of sex, and not before. I had a boyfriend for 3 years who knew about my sexual "due date" and waited patiently. After graduation I was good to my word and continued to date (and have sex with) him for 2 more years. He was an ass in a lot of other ways, and a colossal waste of time, but he WAS very patient and in this regard he was a good boyfriend and I appreciated that. I happened to have a specific timeframe in mind, but she might not. You may be able to get her to define one that she feels comfortable with... start suggesting ridiculously faraway dates (Never...wedding night... 25th birthday) and let her narrow it down to something closer to truth. Alternatively, you can try what my boyfriend did with me, and try to get her to just touch or hold your penis with no strings attached. Explain that nothing else will happen and you will still love her afterwards regardless, but you would really appreciate it. She should soon feel silly just holding a perfectly good, no-longer-scary penis and will look for something more interesting to do with it! __________________ There's no justice. There's just us. Last edited by Acetylene; 12-03-2008 at 02:44 PM.. Reason: Clarification