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It came out...that she had hooked up with a couple of guys. Obviously I was hurt
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Wait, what? That's not obvious at all. You're (arguably) her friend, you should be happy for her! If you're feeling jealous, it's because you are the one who is lying in this relationship, not her. It's perfectly normal not to share all details of all aspects of ones sexual life with their friends--she behaved perfectly appropriately. You, however, have inappropriate jealous feelings towards her. She could be having sex with three guys and a donkey at once right now and you'd have no right as a friend to feel indignant or jealous about it. You could be worried for her safety and sanity
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she has admitted to more and more lies, and has even had sex with one of the guys.
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Wait...she even had sex with one? I thought that's what 'hooked up' meant? What did she do with the rest of them? I'm confused! Nevertheless, three points come immediately to mind:
1. She basically told you all of this knowing it would drive home the point that she isn't interested in you and never will be
2. There is no friendship, there is you wishing you could date her and her liking your company and emotional support (assuming she's not an idiot, she's not blameless here, either--she knows she's stringing you along)
3. For the mental health of both of you, you need to make a clean and permanent break...delete phone numbers, defriend myspace, etc etc. Do it, do it now! You're not even dating for goodness sake!