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Originally Posted by Hyacinthe
Maybe this is a bit personal but you said the two of you haven't had sex - does this include oral sex, have to ever tried mutual masturbation? Maybe she needs to become accustomed to your penis first - the first time you see a guy naked I have to tell you ti can be a bit scary, specially if the guy is well endowed, generally something along the lines of "what the hell, that will never freaking fit!" even if that response is completely illogical considering the elasticity of vaginal tissues.
Maybe she's afraid of the pain, a girls first time can be painful.
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Thanks for the huge post
And to answer your first question, no not at all too personal. I came on here to talk about it and I personally haven't ever been to shy about sexuality (blame Freud.)
Well, there's nothing that I was afraid to try with her, and I did everything she let me, so yes, that included oral sex and mutual masturbation (Me to her, like I've said, she's never touched my penis.)
Thanks for the offer to talk to her about this, but I think that she's had enough of me stressing sex on her. I'll just give more time to figure this out on her own. Who knows, I may end up sending her this way to lurk someday, regardless. Lord knows it did wonders for me
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Originally Posted by onesnowyowl
"Sex can add a lot of emotional ropes to a relationship".
"It may be that she just doesn't want to have sex with you."
"She's 16. You ought to wait until she is emotionally ready to have sex"
"If she's not that important to you, and sex is more important, you should probably consider moving on."
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Thanks for the post
I know that sex is a huge step in a relationship and that's why I was so... careful about how to approach this all.
I'd like to think that it's not me personally, but just the thought of sex entirely that's putting her off of sex.
Yeah, I totally agree that I should wait, and I will. My intentions were never to pressure her into sex, but more so to find out the proper manner as to how to go about approaching this, and what would be the easiest from the girl's point of view.
Thanks, but this girl is very important to me, sex can wait.
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Originally Posted by ItWasMe
"You asked if she wanted to. Hun, that's how it's done."
"So forgive me, but I'm not following the part where you "know this was a rather awful way of going about this, and needless to say she got upset.""
"It's been a while since I've been a 16 year old girl, but I have no idea why a girl who is already fooling around would get upset when asked if she wanted to go further. Unless she felt pushed or rushed for some reason. "
"She's young, she's still figuring herself out. Just because she isn't comfortable talking about it with you, or doing it with you, doesn't mean she never thinks about it."
" When you walk into the room, what do you hope goes through her head? What do you think goes through her head? Do you want to be the guy she mentally cringes from, thinking "here we go again"?"
"You might not mean to make her uncomfortable, but it sounds like you might have done that."
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I knew enough about first times to not just stick it in there and hope for the best, that's why I asked. I think she may have felt a bit pressured due to the fact that we were in the middle of one of our fits of passion.
I don't know if she thinks about it or not, and it's not exactly any of my business unless she wants to talk about it, in which case she knows I'm always receptive to talking.
And in all honesty? when I walk in the room I hope that she's happy, that she's had a decent day, and (if she has a playful look in her eyes)that whatever pounce is upcoming, doesn't immasculate me completely. And no, definitely not. which is why I've laid off of the sex talks as a whole for a while. And yes, I know I may have made her uncomfortable, but like I said, I'm just going to give her her time and hope for the best. And also just enjoy what I'm doing now.