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It may be that she just doesn't want to have sex with you.
When I was not much older than her, I had a boyfriend, and we dated for almost a year. We made out occasionally but never went any further than that, mostly because I didn't want to. I didn't want him to be my first. I just wanted a boyfriend. Sex can add a lot of emotional ropes to a relationship, especially one that's been in existence for a while, and it can make things messy. That can be scary. I was scared.
A few months after we broke up, I met a guy who I was much more comfortable with in that regard, I felt ready, and we went for it. I was 19.
She's 16. You ought to wait until she is emotionally ready to have sex, because she might not be there yet, and you shouldn't pressure her to get there sooner, as it will just backfire on you. If she's really important to you, you'll wait. And no, there isn't some sort of big epiphany in regards to sex. It's more like you wake up one day and you realize you're ready to handle it in your current relationship. She may think you're not in that place yet, or she may think she herself is not in that place yet.
If she's not that important to you, and sex is more important, you should probably consider moving on.
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