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Hyacinthe · 12-01-2008, 06:56 AM

I think you're being very sweet and understanding about this Studentech and it's nice to see that you want your first time to mean something to be with someone you actually like and care about.

Maybe that sounds silly, idealistically romantic and amazingly naive to the rest of you but I believe your first time SHOULD be with someone who means more to you then a convenient set of genitalia.

Maybe this is a bit personal but you said the two of you haven't had sex - does this include oral sex, have to ever tried mutual masturbation? Maybe she needs to become accustomed to your penis first - the first time you see a guy naked I have to tell you ti can be a bit scary, specially if the guy is well endowed, generally something along the lines of "what the hell, that will never freaking fit!" even if that response is completely illogical considering the elasticity of vaginal tissues.

Maybe she's afraid of the pain, a girls first time can be painful.

Or it could be any of the myriad reasons Katyanna gave you.

I would advise just one day when you're sitting down cuddling, maybe after you've just watched a movie or are talking NOT when you have been fooling around physically and asking her. Don't phrase it as a "do you want to have sex or not" type question - more enquire as to why she seems to be uncomfortable with you physically, what point she begins to feel uncomfortable and if there's anything you can do to help her feel better about it. Be prepared that there might be nothing you can do - if she's decided she wants to be a virgin on her wedding night for example there's really nothing you can do to change her midn that won't be putting pressure on her and it sounds as though you're really trying to avoid that.

If she feels that uncomfortable talking to you about it (hopes are she doesn't but ....) give her the addy for the forums - providing you're cool with her being on here) and get her to talk to some of the women on here. I'm sure we can convince her that penii that a thing to be chrished not feared.

12-01-2008, 06:56 AM	#17 (permalink)
Hyacinthe Psycho Location: Australia	I think you're being very sweet and understanding about this Studentech and it's nice to see that you want your first time to mean something to be with someone you actually like and care about. Maybe that sounds silly, idealistically romantic and amazingly naive to the rest of you but I believe your first time SHOULD be with someone who means more to you then a convenient set of genitalia. Maybe this is a bit personal but you said the two of you haven't had sex - does this include oral sex, have to ever tried mutual masturbation? Maybe she needs to become accustomed to your penis first - the first time you see a guy naked I have to tell you ti can be a bit scary, specially if the guy is well endowed, generally something along the lines of "what the hell, that will never freaking fit!" even if that response is completely illogical considering the elasticity of vaginal tissues. Maybe she's afraid of the pain, a girls first time can be painful. Or it could be any of the myriad reasons Katyanna gave you. I would advise just one day when you're sitting down cuddling, maybe after you've just watched a movie or are talking NOT when you have been fooling around physically and asking her. Don't phrase it as a "do you want to have sex or not" type question - more enquire as to why she seems to be uncomfortable with you physically, what point she begins to feel uncomfortable and if there's anything you can do to help her feel better about it. Be prepared that there might be nothing you can do - if she's decided she wants to be a virgin on her wedding night for example there's really nothing you can do to change her midn that won't be putting pressure on her and it sounds as though you're really trying to avoid that. If she feels that uncomfortable talking to you about it (hopes are she doesn't but ....) give her the addy for the forums - providing you're cool with her being on here) and get her to talk to some of the women on here. I'm sure we can convince her that penii that a thing to be chrished not feared. __________________ "I want to be remembered as the girl who always smiles even when her heart is broken... and the one that could brighten up your day even if she couldnt brighten her own" "Her emotions were clear waters. You could see the scarring and pockmarks at the bottom of the pool, but it was just a part of her landscape – the consequences of others’ actions in which she claimed no part."