11-30-2008, 08:22 PM
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#16 (permalink)
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After School Special Moralist
Location: Large City, Texas.
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Originally Posted by Studentech
Hey all, being the youngest member and all must entitle me to somewhat post the most immature of problems? no? ah well, here goes regardless.
My SO and I have been dating for a year and a half now, and sexuality has slowly worked it's way into our relationship. Me, being a lurker on here for a long time, found it rather odd that it wasn't something that we really openly discussed, but I wasn't about to force her into conversations she'd rather avoid (keep in mind we still do talk about it, just not all too often.) I've also been about taking it at her pace since day one, and that's worked really well. but now I feel like I'm at a bit of a dead end on my part. Our situation currently is I'll do to her whatever she lets me, but she hasn't ever expressed any interest in my penis as far as intercourse is concerned. This in itself doesn't particularly bug me (maybe it should..?) Theres always been the thought of sex on my mind after all, I am a teenage boy. Recently however, the thought has become more and more prominent, and during one of our last encounters I asked if she wanted to. I know this was a rather awful way of going about this, and needless to say she got upset.
We talked about it afterwards and she doesn't seem to know why she's not comfortable with the thought of sex. Now here's my question to you all, especially the women of TFP. Is there anything I can do to make her more comfortable? anything I can help with to make this easier for her? or is it just that she doesn't feel she's ready and that I need to be patient?
I've not a clue as to what to do past this really... any input would be appreciated 
Cheers
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I'll pretty much echo the advice that others (except maybe Crompsin) have offered. I do find it strange that y'all have been dating for 1.5 years, there is some sexual awareness in your relationship, yet she got upset when you asked if she wanted to have intercourse.
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