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Studentech · 11-30-2008, 11:47 AM

Thanks for the reply's guys, honestly i had a feeling something along the lines of "if she hasn't put out by then, pack your shit up and move on" would appear. But I can't see myself ending a relationship that I'm otherwise very happy with just because she won't put out. There's also a few other things that i forgot to mention which probably factor into this greatly
First, she's only 16.
Second, I'm the first boyfriend that she's done anything more then kiss with, so bad experiences is out of play.
I'd also really like to rule out the possibility of sexual abuse, although it's supposedly possible.
She's also not into religion.
I think that the way I came across about our discussions is a bit off, we do talk but talking about sex makes her feel... exposed i think, it makes her uncomfortable.
What I'll do sooner rather than later is sit her down and talk about instead of having sex, if at least I can have a slice of the action. That way if she wants to wait with sex if she wants to, and I'll stop feeling rejected. However, I'm also suspicious whether or not she has a general fear of a penises. probably stemming from sex ed...
Anyway, I'll keep some of these things in mind, but any more input would also be appreciated.

11-30-2008, 11:47 AM	#8 (permalink)
Studentech Upright	Thanks for the reply's guys, honestly i had a feeling something along the lines of "if she hasn't put out by then, pack your shit up and move on" would appear. But I can't see myself ending a relationship that I'm otherwise very happy with just because she won't put out. There's also a few other things that i forgot to mention which probably factor into this greatly First, she's only 16. Second, I'm the first boyfriend that she's done anything more then kiss with, so bad experiences is out of play. I'd also really like to rule out the possibility of sexual abuse, although it's supposedly possible. She's also not into religion. I think that the way I came across about our discussions is a bit off, we do talk but talking about sex makes her feel... exposed i think, it makes her uncomfortable. What I'll do sooner rather than later is sit her down and talk about instead of having sex, if at least I can have a slice of the action. That way if she wants to wait with sex if she wants to, and I'll stop feeling rejected. However, I'm also suspicious whether or not she has a general fear of a penises. probably stemming from sex ed... Anyway, I'll keep some of these things in mind, but any more input would also be appreciated.