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i have thought a lot about marriage. i have a lot of anxieties towards it and i'm not sure if marriage is right for me.
yes, i think it's time to rethink our institutions. when i go into a relationship, i still somehow think of this long term potential with a partner, but my conflicting views with marriage almost set relationships up for failure by my inability to trust. i don't even know if i believe in monogamy but i want a lifepartner?
there are infinitely more choices now than ever before.. and not just with relationship structures. women can choose to work, stay at home, work from home, etc. they have more leverage with personal choices thanks to the feminist movement. there was a point in the 80s when there was a backlash to feminism and people blamed feminism for everything 'wrong' with marriage! they thought it was a women's fault for wanting to work, or have more choices that they couldn't handle these choices and were unhappy with themselves and ruining the family. in short: get back in the kitchen, bitches!
i see choices, in general, for men and women alike happening currently. yes, it may complicate life, and yes, maybe we don't have it all figured out yet, but that's the point of growing... challenging.. questioning status quo. life is moving faster than 50-60 years ago. i'm not sure if we've all caught up with it, but it's at least an interesting ride. with more choices, there might be more chances to make mistakes, divorce, be unhappy, fail.. but is it worth it? I think so. I think this undercurrent is already starting to change institutions. you can't learn without falling and making mistakes. we are evolving.
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And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
~Anais Nin
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