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I think there's a very broad spectrum of fulfilling and healthy relationships, and while some might find it repulsive, others would thrive on the drama and game of it. That said...
- it's definitely skewed against men because in general what they are in a relationship for to begin with is steady reliable affection, while women tend to seek attention. Not a very even trade-off there since the woman gets plenty of attention in an argument. it's definitely a viable weapon, but it can be a double edged sword in the way it leaves the man vulnerable to things like disloyalty and escalation and triangles.
I'd say the most important thing is to set the bar very early on if you expect to have sex on cue in a relationship. or you might be lucky and get with a mate who's backround or culture demands sex be delivered regardless of conflicts... they're out there :P
personally, i see the sexual relationship as the foundation and whole point of monogamy, and if someone came at me from that angle, it would be a deal-breaker.
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-my phobia drowned while i was gettin down.
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