SabrinaFair

Hello loves-
For those of you who read my blog, this is an expansion on one my recent entries. Recently, I've found myself in a "friends with benefits" situation. I'm happy in this particular situation at this juncture in my life. I'm an independent woman who knows what she wants and refuses to settle. I'm also a woman who likes sex on a semi-regular basis. So rather than date people I'm not interested in, I'm very happy to have a friend with whom I can laugh, talk, and yes, have sex.

This recent development has got me thinking about the difference between "friends with benefits" and "fuck buddies". To my thinking, they are very different concepts. A fuck buddy is someone who exists solely for sex. While the relationship is not necessarily cold, it is limited. On the other hand, a "friend with benefits" is just that--someone you are truly friends with. I've been in both situations before, and I have to say, I'm not a fan of the "fuck buddy" scenario. It's so damned awkward. While I'm comfortable with the idea of sex without romantic attachment, I can't completely detach my emotions. I like being with someone I care about, even if that "caring" isn't romantic love. The comfort and caring of the FWB situation suits me just fine. I can see where it might get complicated--it has for me in the past--but in my present circumstances, I think things will work out fine.

So I'm wondering...what are your experiences with these types of relationships? Do you prefer one over the other? Do you think they can work without someone getting attached (and subsequently hurt)? Discuss. :-)

Love,
Sabrina

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