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Originally posted by JackSpratt
Seriously though guys, all this talk about whether or not you can get hard is besides the point. Of course you can, it just takes physical stimulation. And even if you "like it" at the time and responded physically, its still rape if you didn't want to do it and were coerced. It would still be rape if the woman got aroused but had said no...wouldn't it? All I know is that the fact that I responded doubled the shame I felt about the incidence. Its a scary thing to have your body betray you so easily. As for admitting it, well I think most guys wouldn't admit it because so many people would try to make him feel ashamed about it (wimp, pussy, crybaby etc.). Those terms have been used on men since they were little kids to control them and are very effective still. Thankfully, I don't give a rat's ass what emotionally manipulative people say about me anymore.
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very well said... and i commend your honestly and willingness to be open while appearing new to this forum
(noting your [Rookie status). it's been a long known fact that one of the reasons incest survivors feel such deep shame and guilt is due to the fact that many of them experience physical arousal during the abuse. a total betrayal... your own body betraying the heart and mind.
i can see this being very much the case with men... and as i stated in one of my earlier posts... Rape is not about sex... it's about control... arousal is beside the point.