abaya

I can DEFINITELY understand that. I don't think anyone likes dealing with ego, especially on the internet when it gets super-sized.

But on the other hand, what's the alternative? Let the egos run wild and have free reign to say and act however they like? I don't know, like I said... maybe I'm too idealistic. But I'm tired of feeling like ought to sit along the sidelines and post in women-only areas because those controlling the discourse are too inconsiderate to back up and make the space feel safe to others. I mean, isn't that what's really going on here?

It's a freaking internet forum. We're all 2-dimensional here, and have little-to-no effect on each other in real life. This should be a space where we feel MOST comfortable talking to strangers about our opinions, and yet we don't. Why are we afraid of each other? The whole construct just frustrates me. I don't like to participate in any space where one group is passively minimized (and where that same group doesn't choose to assert itself against the loudest voices, either), and it's starting to get under my skin around here, lately. I feel stuck.

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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
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