I want kids but no more than 2 if I can help it. Only situation I'd change my mind for is if there were two girls or two boys already and I or the father decided we really would like at least one girl/boy. That's it.
I am pretty direct when in a relationship about what I want and what I'll be flexible about. It just saves a lot of heartache later.
I think that your wife can't force you into doing this. It's a joint decision. If she is so set on it, then she'll have to choose which is more important to her. Another baby, or you and the family she has currently. If she chooses one more child, it just seems selfish. She already has 4!
Maybe you can try and reason with her...4 children under 8 is already a handful. That's 4 kids to divide both your time, finances, attention, affection between. In a way, it's selfish to the already existing kids to take more time etc. away from them with yet another sibling. What is her motivation to have another? Just because she likes them more when they're babies? Because she likes being pregnant? Because that's the only time she feels happy with herself? She should deal with her insecurities there. You can't always get what you want - especially when it's only beneficial to you and potentially harmful to everyone else you love. That's part of growing up.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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