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You need to take an active role in helping her develop a healthy lifestyle.
You need to sit down with her and tell her that you are concerned about her health. Mention diabetes, and tell her that you think she will develop this serious disease (soon!) if she continues on her current path. Tell her that you see her poor eating habits akin to alcoholism, and that you would like to help her confront it. Tell her that you married her because you want(ed) to be together for the rest of your lives, and that your life together will be longer if she is healthier. Tell her you are concerned that her poor eating habits are an indication of deeper problems, such as dissatisfaction with life, unhappiness in the relationship, or perhaps a mild case of depression.
You need to take an active role.
You should work together to build menus that include 3 light, healthy meals and two vegetable-based snacks each day. Encourage her to bring her soda consumption down to one every day. Do not allow her to just switch to diet - this is far too much of a crutch. What is it about water that she does not prefer? If she doesn't like the taste, perhaps she could switch from soda to iced herbal or green teas.
After dinner each night, invite her for a walk around the neighborhood. Keep it under a mile at first, and keep it at a relaxed pace. Chit-chat about your day while you walk, or, if she's a chatty-type, ask her about her week and let her vocal thoughts run.
The crucial part about this whole process is to let her know that you married her for a reason, that reason had nothing to do with her weight but everything to do with the prospect of a long, happy, and healthy life together. If you tell her that you love her and that you're concerned, you will most likely make progress.
I wish you two the best.
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"Sometimes I have to remember that things are brought to me for a reason, either for my own lessons or for the benefit of others." Cynthetiq
"violence is no more or less real than non-violence." roachboy
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