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*wave* Hey, I remember you. I'm back after a long break as well...welcome back!
From what I can tell, it means vastly different things to different people. A group of friends and I discussed this a few years ago, and one of the guys had an answer I really liked, going along with the "it's about attitude, not numbers" ... if a girl just enjoys sex, she's not a slut. If she's having all kinds of sex to try and validate herself, or to prove her worth or whatever, that makes her a slut.
...not sure how realistic that is, and I know not everyone thinks that way. Another friend thinks it's only about the numbers, but that being a slut isn't a bad thing.
In the past, I've measured "sluttiness" differently for different people, and I've really tried to rein that in. It definitely annoys me when women use sex (or sex appeal) to get what they want, but I'm not as quick to judge that as slutty.
As for me... it doesn't really bother me what people think. My mom thinks I'm a total slut because I'm not married to the person I'm having regular, exclusive sex with. My friends and boyfriend think I just really like sex. (which is true.) At the end of the day, it comes down to how I feel about my choices (past as well as present), and I've realized that's true about other people, too. So much that I've pretty much eliminated "slut" from my vocabulary.
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"...for though she was ordinary, she possessed health, wit, courage, charm, and cheerfulness. But because she was not beautiful, no one ever seemed to notice these other qualities, which is so often the way of the world."
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"
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