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Willravel: Im usually the type of guy you describe in your post as someone who is not after a quick deal, rather something that has more substance. However being a uni student there is a lot more quick casual experiences about and I wouldn't mind being able to get into this setting as well as the more fulfilling experience you describe. I must say though I think its harder to change from a casual player to someone who cares a lot more and is prepared to put in some effort so im not in too bad of a position as it, simply looking to branch out a bit more.
Yakk: After reading your post this is where I feel I may have let myself down I dont think I gave her one compliment about her appearence and as you said it is best to float one out there now and then and leave it at that, over doing it acts in a negative manner. She briefly sat on my couch for 5 minutes or so when my housemate and his girlfriend arrived home despite three couches being on offer so it may have also been a missed sign. Her positioning for the rest of the night was either directly across from me or at an angle that wasnt too large such as opposite ends of two couches facing each other.
Daniel & Cj2112: She wasn't someone I would drop anything for to see again though she was pretty awesome. I have no doubt she will be back before the year is out and most likely in a couple of weeks for our biggest uni bash of the year so ill hold off on contacting her as she will be back at our place. To me it puts me in a better position with her when she comes back as opposed to actively seeking her out. If I was looking for a girlfriend or more than a one off night I would employ your tactics but having come out of a 6 month relationship a month or so ago im not looking to bunker down for a while yet.
Mixed Substance: Im too hesitant with everything thats my current problem, though I can see where going gung ho into the situation without prior analysis can leave you worse for wear or shot down. Being a uni student chances are like most uni students she is a lot more relaxed sexually than in the wider community and as such is more likely to be a slut but I figure that is good starting material if I am to develop a "game" as im already starting ahead. Going off her bubbly personality and job as a bar maid I figure she isnt desperate or lonely as there would be a steady supply of guys having a crack at her simply because she is good to talk to and has some looks to back it up. As for the STI part its possible though doubtful as most girls who pass through the house, even friends get talked about after coming and my housemate did not mention an STI in relation to her. If she had an STI he is the sort of guy who would give us a heads up before hand in case something happened, no matter how unlikely. As for D & E thats also possible though I didnt really determine which if either was the case though from the way we were getting along it would be one of them though this may be a little biased. Body language is something else I failed to take notice of and have since realised is a key mistake, I should have been looking at where her hands where, how she positioned her body and shoulders etc.
Deviod: As mentioned above im not looking to date but if I were thinking along that path then your advice sounds about right for the situation. If/when she comes here again and im not busy my plan of attack is this. Have a quick chat to her when she arrvies "how are you going/what have you been up to etc" and then leave her be for 15 minutes or so, hopefully by backing of a little its showing her that im not desperate and am confident enough that I dont need to latch onto her as soon as she arrives. After that period of time elapses have more of a conversation with her whenever the opportunity presents its self and take it from there.
Thanks for the advice guys (and girl/s?) im quite happy to hear any more people may have.
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