_Yossarian

I think there have been some good posts here, but this one is very important to remember. Odds are he doesn't bring this up to everyone especially since you have been together long enough to be committed (how long?) and you didn't hear about it till now. He brought it up not only because he wants to be pooped on, but also because he actually trusted you enough to share something that most people would probably be disgusted by and thought that he had a decent chance of not being turned away by you as a freak. So whether this is something that you are willing to do or not at least talk to him about it as you would have before or as if that it is really something less offensive than the holocaust. Honest and open communication without judgement is the only way the relationship is going to work, feces or no feces.