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Originally Posted by Martian
Yo!
I have nothing to contribute to this discussion, aside from the fact that I am someone Baraka_Guru knows (albeit not very well) who carries no debt whatsoever.
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I probably have more to contribute, but for now I just wanted to add that ktsp and I are two more people who carry no debt whatsoever. Let me just say that it is probably one of the best things you can do to start a marriage out on the right foot, if at all possible (I realize that not everyone can do this, but if there is any way of doing it, DO IT!)
Yes, of course it's also important to go to counseling, make sure you're emotionally/physically compatible, can manage a household together, etc. But to have both parties free of debt, financially independent, and with similiar spending habits (in our case, we're both rather scrooge-ish... and that's a good thing) on your wedding day... you wouldn't believe how much this contributes to the stability of the relationship, as a whole. I count ourselves to be very lucky, and we hope to remain financially responsible for ourselves and our marriage for as long as possible. It goes a long, long way.
On that note, today is our 2 year wedding anniversary!
EDIT: NoSoup, let me also add that when I hear stories about people like the one you describe in the OP, I want to smack them. Strangely, I hear stories like that FAR more often in the US than I do in Iceland. Mostly, I would say, because Icelandic culture does not have as strong of a "gimme more" entitlement that seems to run so strongly in American culture these days--and there is no "suing" culture in Iceland, whatsoever, which says a lot. If bad things happen to you in Iceland, it is generally assumed that you probably deserved them.
