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mcgeedo · 10-14-2008, 04:10 PM

We met on an internet forum. We were both posting to a thread on a topic that I know a little bit about, and she asked me a couple questions in the thread. She seemed to be a bright, inquisitive person and a lot of fun to talk with, so I invited her to email me directly. She did.

We started out exchanging a couple emails a day. I found myself looking forward to checking email. I enjoyed our conversation a lot. After a couple months, we were up to a dozen or two emails a day, and ranging far and wide with our conversations. It was soon after that that we acknowledged that we had fallen in love, never having seen each other. We had traded a few pictures, and had some brief telephone conversations, but still communicated mostly via email. My acquaintenance had become my best friend had become my love.

About 6 months into our relationship, we decided to meet. We talked ourselves out of meeting at first, but after a little reflection we decided we'd just go ahead and meet and whatever might happen, would happen. Meeting was an amazing experience, but at that point we didn't know what to do about our relationship and we were somewhat adrift. We were both in relationships at the time, but they were both at an end anyway; we were just going through the motions day to day.

Around 8 months in, we met again. During a sweet little visit in New England, I told her that we were going to eventually end up together, and she didn't disagree. But we were still floundering. We met again for 3 wonderful days at a beautiful historical resort. It was then that we realized that saying goodbye was so painful that we would either have to be together or end it, even though we weren't able to express that to each other at that point. This was about 9 months in, after a terribly long holiday season apart.

The last couple months before this point, we found ourselves spending the entire day together, either on the phone or on email or webcam. We decided, and I'm not sure exactly how, that we had to be together. So that's exactly what we did. We moved in together at the end of February.

We've had our growing pains, as all new couples do. But we've matured together and continue falling in love again each new day. There's so many fascinating things about how our relationship developed, but the big one, in my mind, is that we started out communicating so deeply and frankly, and we were best friends months before we were lovers. I read so many posts here and elsewhere where a couple has an issue, and I think "Why don't you two just sit and talk together about it? Take off your clothes, sit across from each other in your bed, start by saying 'I love you,' and just go from there." That's what we do, and it's the most incredible experience of my life.

We're engaged now, and we'll marry in the Spring. I love her more than anything in my life. My dreams have all come true, and I'm smiling as I write this, waiting for her to run across it :-)

10-14-2008, 04:10 PM	#26 (permalink)
mcgeedo Crazy	We met on an internet forum. We were both posting to a thread on a topic that I know a little bit about, and she asked me a couple questions in the thread. She seemed to be a bright, inquisitive person and a lot of fun to talk with, so I invited her to email me directly. She did. We started out exchanging a couple emails a day. I found myself looking forward to checking email. I enjoyed our conversation a lot. After a couple months, we were up to a dozen or two emails a day, and ranging far and wide with our conversations. It was soon after that that we acknowledged that we had fallen in love, never having seen each other. We had traded a few pictures, and had some brief telephone conversations, but still communicated mostly via email. My acquaintenance had become my best friend had become my love. About 6 months into our relationship, we decided to meet. We talked ourselves out of meeting at first, but after a little reflection we decided we'd just go ahead and meet and whatever might happen, would happen. Meeting was an amazing experience, but at that point we didn't know what to do about our relationship and we were somewhat adrift. We were both in relationships at the time, but they were both at an end anyway; we were just going through the motions day to day. Around 8 months in, we met again. During a sweet little visit in New England, I told her that we were going to eventually end up together, and she didn't disagree. But we were still floundering. We met again for 3 wonderful days at a beautiful historical resort. It was then that we realized that saying goodbye was so painful that we would either have to be together or end it, even though we weren't able to express that to each other at that point. This was about 9 months in, after a terribly long holiday season apart. The last couple months before this point, we found ourselves spending the entire day together, either on the phone or on email or webcam. We decided, and I'm not sure exactly how, that we had to be together. So that's exactly what we did. We moved in together at the end of February. We've had our growing pains, as all new couples do. But we've matured together and continue falling in love again each new day. There's so many fascinating things about how our relationship developed, but the big one, in my mind, is that we started out communicating so deeply and frankly, and we were best friends months before we were lovers. I read so many posts here and elsewhere where a couple has an issue, and I think "Why don't you two just sit and talk together about it? Take off your clothes, sit across from each other in your bed, start by saying 'I love you,' and just go from there." That's what we do, and it's the most incredible experience of my life. We're engaged now, and we'll marry in the Spring. I love her more than anything in my life. My dreams have all come true, and I'm smiling as I write this, waiting for her to run across it :-)