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Originally Posted by abaya
Maybe I was unclear in my previous post, but my point here was: ... which means that yes, effort is everything, and the person's willingness to try and change his/her kissing behavior is really important. If no change was happening, then of course, that would get annoying. But hey, not everyone is good at everything right off the bat, and people also change over time. As ratbastid (and Snowy) said, good kissing can be trained... as long as both people are open and willing to change, I think it doesn't have to be a dealbreaker. Essentially, we agree here, don't we?
I mean, for the opposite perspective, what if you married a really great kisser who was in an accident, or was attacked by a dog, or something that really messed up their lips and therefore kissing ability? Would that still be a dealbreaker for you? Most likely not, right?
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I don't think that's a good example. I'm talking about someone you're initiating a relationship with, who kisses in a way you don't care for much, and who is unresponsive to your attempts to let him know you'd like something a little different to what he's doing.
In that case you mention, there is a prior history with the person and they have come to be in those circumstances through no fault of their own, and likely are willing to work at it too, if they can.
I'm not saying we totally disagree. But where you see a training possibility, I don't want to be anyone's teacher, grooming them till they fit my requirements. I think some people will work well together despite small points of friction, and others don't have a chance in hell. If things in the beginning aren't pretty awesome, then what's the point in prolonging something that is hard work from the get go? It either works, or it doesn't. To me, kissing has to work quite early on.