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Originally Posted by little_tippler
And you told him, gently, to not do it so hard because it hurts, or to try something different to get away from the saliva bath. But it's not working. Wouldn't you start flinching slightly every time you kissed, thinking "here we go again"? And seriously thinking about "what if it's always like this and I can't stand it anymore"? Would this not be a dealbreaker to you?
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Maybe I was unclear in my previous post, but my point here was:
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Originally Posted by abaya
Well, yeah... of course, it's all about the responsiveness and willingness to adapt to each other's needs as best as possible.
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... which means that yes, effort is everything, and the person's willingness to try and change his/her kissing behavior is really important. If no change was happening, then of course, that would get annoying. But hey, not everyone is good at everything right off the bat, and people also change over time. As ratbastid (and Snowy) said, good kissing can be trained... as long as both people are open and willing to change, I think it doesn't have to be a dealbreaker. Essentially, we agree here, don't we?
I mean, for the opposite perspective, what if you married a really great kisser who was in an accident, or was attacked by a dog, or something that really messed up their lips and therefore kissing ability? Would that still be a dealbreaker for you? Most likely not, right?