little_tippler

I'm not sure how this would work for you abaya, but say you've been dating someone for about 3 weeks. And every time you kiss, he slobbers on your face. Or he always has his tongue ready before your lips have touched. Or he constantly bites down on your lip and it still hurts from last time. And you told him, gently, to not do it so hard because it hurts, or to try something different to get away from the saliva bath. But it's not working. Wouldn't you start flinching slightly every time you kissed, thinking "here we go again"? And seriously thinking about "what if it's always like this and I can't stand it anymore"? Would this not be a dealbreaker to you? If it gets to the point where it puts you off and is not workable, how could you stay with someone whose kissing turns you off?

In any long-term relationship I've had, I've always had a compatible kisser. I couldn't do it otherwise. If I had to remind him often not to "swallow my face" I'd get tired pretty fast.

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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.

Fernando Pessoa, 1918