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Jenna · 10-10-2008, 12:56 PM

It was hard for me to answer the poll, because my boyfriend and I switch back and forth between using the withdrawal method and a condom. But I said withdrawal because I think we've used that method more.

Why have you chosen your method(s) of birth control?
For him, there is a huge loss of sensitivity when using a condom. There was some issues with his self-esteem from an ex-girlfriend when we first got together and a condom just wasn't an option. So we started using the withdrawal method right away.

His self-esteem issues were gone within a few months, and we started using a condom.

The problem is that, it's a give and take thing. Either it feels GREAT when we're having sex and it doesn't feel so good when he finishes - with the withdrawal method. Or it doesn't feel so good during while we're having sex but the orgasm is amazing - with a condom. So we just tend to switch back and forth between them.

I tried using HBC but I completely lost my sex drive. Foreplay didn't help, porn didn't help, nothing worked. So after about 6 months I stopped using it.

Our methods work pretty well for our lifestyle. Although the withdrawal method isn't very secure and an unplanned pregnancy would be... well... awful. Thus far, it has worked. There has been many pregnancy scares as my cycle is constantly screwed up. I would love to be on the pill, that would be ideal. But until I can find one that doesn't lower my sex drive, our current methods will have to stay.

Are you in a committed relationship?
Yes, I am.

I don't think our methods would change if we got engaged or married. But, when we do get married and I want children, obviously things will change.

Are you using birth control for quality of life, health or financial reasons?
- Yes, my income is low enough that I could not provide a child with a healthy, stable life that it deserves.

- For myself, yes. For others that really need it? No.

- I would probably have to be a freelance graphic designer which would really be difficult starting out. So yes, it would.

- No.

- Nope.

- There is a large amount of women in my family with breast cancer. So possibly.

10-10-2008, 12:56 PM	#6 (permalink)
Jenna Psycho Location: Wisconsin	It was hard for me to answer the poll, because my boyfriend and I switch back and forth between using the withdrawal method and a condom. But I said withdrawal because I think we've used that method more. Why have you chosen your method(s) of birth control? For him, there is a huge loss of sensitivity when using a condom. There was some issues with his self-esteem from an ex-girlfriend when we first got together and a condom just wasn't an option. So we started using the withdrawal method right away. His self-esteem issues were gone within a few months, and we started using a condom. The problem is that, it's a give and take thing. Either it feels GREAT when we're having sex and it doesn't feel so good when he finishes - with the withdrawal method. Or it doesn't feel so good during while we're having sex but the orgasm is amazing - with a condom. So we just tend to switch back and forth between them. I tried using HBC but I completely lost my sex drive. Foreplay didn't help, porn didn't help, nothing worked. So after about 6 months I stopped using it. Our methods work pretty well for our lifestyle. Although the withdrawal method isn't very secure and an unplanned pregnancy would be... well... awful. Thus far, it has worked. There has been many pregnancy scares as my cycle is constantly screwed up. I would love to be on the pill, that would be ideal. But until I can find one that doesn't lower my sex drive, our current methods will have to stay. Are you in a committed relationship? Yes, I am. I don't think our methods would change if we got engaged or married. But, when we do get married and I want children, obviously things will change. Are you using birth control for quality of life, health or financial reasons? - Yes, my income is low enough that I could not provide a child with a healthy, stable life that it deserves. - For myself, yes. For others that really need it? No. - I would probably have to be a freelance graphic designer which would really be difficult starting out. So yes, it would. - No. - Nope. - There is a large amount of women in my family with breast cancer. So possibly.