Jinn

I have the same symptoms, soma. I'm in a 'trusting, open and honest relationship' of almost 4 years, as above, and I have tried abstaining from masturbation and porn to no avail.

I blame the condom entirely. If you ever get a chance to go at it without a condom, you'll see. It's nearly impossible for me to stay hard for the entire duration with a condom on, and I can feel almost nothing. I wish I could help, but I feel the same way sometimes. The only real 'solution' is to find another type of birth control.

As for the 'super thin' condoms mentioned above, please do tell.

EDIT: Also, try not to take it as a hit against your "manliness". It gets really depressing when you start to feel that its a failure on your part to be a "man." Value your manliness in other ways too, and it'll be a lot easier to deal with.

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