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Originally Posted by jewels
She's 12.8 years younger and it's okay for you date her and, say, 2 years later you decide to marry because you love her and envision growing old with her. You see her birth certificate when applying for the license and find out she's lied about her age. She's 20 years younger. Dealbreaker?
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Maybe, maybe not. Chances are, if it turns out to be a dealbreaker, it's not because of the age difference, it's because she lied to me for 2 years.
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Originally Posted by Deltona Couple
Why doe sit HAVE to be his midlife, or her daddy issues? what makes it so impossible that someone could just find another person attractive to them? Sorry, but I find offense in such a blanket statement. Not all older/younger couples are bad, or evolve because one or the other has a "problem" with their daddy or a midlife crisis.
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It doesn't
have to be either. I didn't say it
was either of those things directly, only that when I saw such a couple, that was my first thought. I would be perfectly prepared to be proven wrong, but I do tend to wonder about a 20-year gap.
From people of completely different generations, with vastly different generational paradigms, one of whom has vastly more life experience than the other, who are at totally different places in life, what would be the subjects held in common? What common ground would these people have on which to base a relationship, over and above sexual attraction?
I'm not saying it can't happen, or that it doesn't happen. I'm just saying I tend to think it doesn't often happen for the right reasons. But I am always happy to be proven wrong in such a situation.