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Originally Posted by Jozrael
@abaya: The whole point though is that it's still possible. While I'm not honestly concerned about it really happening (especially if I double up), there's still that tiny possibility that it could happen...and then I'd be forced to (in my eyes) commit murder. Again, not forced to, but that would be my choice in that scenario. Btw, my SO loves you right now because this is exactly the answer she's been saying :P.
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Yeah, it's still possible... but for chrissake, man... I never thought I'd meet someone who was more paranoid about this topic than I was!
If you are seriously worried about the chance of her getting pregnant while SHE is on hormonal BC (already 99.9% effective, with perfect use) and while YOU are using a condom (98% effective, with perfect use)... I mean, seriously. If that still bothers you, then I guess your only choice really is to abstain... and that's okay, and it's very responsible, actually. But it depends how important physical intimacy is to you and your girlfriend... because it could end up causing some problems between the two of you, if your values don't align on a topic like this.
I suppose I had the opposite problem from you. We were using double-up protection because we knew that if we got pregnant, I would NOT be able to abort it. And we both knew that it would ultimately be my choice--even if we broke up, ktsp would still have to be financially responsible for the kid. So it was clearly in both of our interests to use as much BC as possible until we were ready to deal with a mistake happening. Of course, the ideal would be that we have a kid when we WANT a kid... and that's still our plan. But we've now been together for 4.5 years, married for 2, and are coming up on 30 years old with jobs and degrees. A kid would no longer wreak total havoc on our lives, as it would have done 3-4 years ago.