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Originally Posted by Xerxys
you have to set rules and regulations for yourself and adhere to them strictly if you are too proud son-of-a-bitch to ask for help, like me.
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Well, that's honest. And I think it works for a lot of people.
Problem is, those who struggle the most with this stuff are in no place to be setting their own rules and regulations... most of them want to be as free from encumbrances and commitments as possible, and they are not able to set those kinds of boundaries around their lives and decisions for any extended period of time. In which case, we crazies gotta ask for help.
I was too good to ask for help for most of my life. Then I started fucking up relationships, one after the other. I thought staying single might help, but no. I got more fucked up. At some point I realized that I didn't want to fuck up my future marriage, or my friendships, or especially my future kids. I didn't want to ask for help, but I didn't want to keep hurting other people because of my ego.
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Originally Posted by jewels
Based on my experience, I think if I'd had a really good therapist from Day One, I might have been able to deal without meds. Maybe it's just my situation, nI'm not sure.
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I was never on meds, but I think that if I'd had my most recent therapist from the very beginning (he was my 3rd) and if he'd applied cognitive behavior therapy from the beginning, it would have saved me a lot of time and energy. But then again, these things are never just in-and-out deals... you gotta put in the time in order for it to pay off. Very few people find a "good fit" therapist in their first few counseling experiences. Those who do are very lucky.