I'm a fan of kissing more than the actual sex most times. When there's an actual connection, not just a "let's do this and get paid" session. I pay more attention to the man, though - I'm a fan of his 'moving parts' - the swing of the cock and balls.
And I could stare at a man's butt for hours! But I'm also like CinnamonGirl - I prefer reading to pictures/movies. Something about the written word puts ME in the situation more than watching someone else.