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Is physical interaction the line, and you're okay with anything that precedes it? I am opposed to anything relating to porn or erotica that requires involvement. Porn as far as a visual, a movie, a show, an image, I am ok with that. I am not ok with anything that requires participation whether it be physical or cyber.
Are the emotions what matter, and the physicality is irrelevant? Any physical sexual relationship outside of the relationship is cheating, any sexual participation between my lover and another is cheating in my eyes. Whether it is on the phone, by mail, on the internet, or in some dank hotel room.
Is sexual desire for another enough to be considered infidelity, making infidelity inevitable? No.
Is it un-useful to draw lines, is it innately a nebulous affair? No, I believe that it is important to draw lines. I believe that each person should know where they stand in a relationship, what they feel is acceptable and unacceptable. Should a gray area be brought up later it can be worked through.
Are porn apologists taking the easy low-ground, when we're capable of better? At times, I believe so. For one, I think there is far more depth to it than, if it has a penis it is going to look at porn. I don't believe that is the full truth.
Are we, over time, shifting our societies values fundamentally? I honestly don't believe so. There are changes of course, more porn access being one of them. Access has changed porn considerably but that doesn't change the fact that it was still there. With availablity it is likely more socially acceptable. At the same time, do you tell your neighbor, mother, children that you look at porn or would you find that uncomfortable. I think more enjoy it because of the anonymity you can have now. I have little doubt that if the same capabilities existed in years past it would have been utilized much more.
Are we going to a better or worse place? ....Or will we be relatively the same? I would say if anything the expanded knowledge that the internet has provided has likely made some people feel not entirely alone in some of the more taboo aspects of sexual pleasure. I would also say that it has made some more knowledgeable.
Is pornography more positive than negative, or a necessary evil? It depends. For most people I am sure it is used harmlessly. There are some who will have addictive personalities and it will become an evil. Just like alcohol, some people can drink without a problem, others can't stop after one. Necessary, I don't think so. In the eyes of the inexperienced, it may lead them to a false idea of what sex is in reality. To others, partners who for whatever reason must be apart for great deals of time, it may be a blessing.
Are men and women to be held to different standards, given the observable trends? I have seen the opinion or the "data" that some men have used to substantiate their use of porn, their need for sex. I have to answer obviously yes. Men are almost expected to view porn, it is considered so natural to some. Women on the other hand in part I don't think they require that sort of mindless stimulation but they are held with a higher "more saintly" regard.
Whenever porn invades a relationship, meaning to the point where the dynamics of a relationship has changed, it is wrong. When porn invades in a manner that makes one of the partners uncomfortable, it is wrong.
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