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i'm not sure that my 'dominance' in my relationship is such a good thing. i tend to dictate our conversations and focus them towards myself, my problems, etc. without giving much in return and listening to his needs. this is one of those issues i'm trying to address...
in other areas, i will want him to make the plans, and it turns out that things don't often happen (like celebrating our anniversary, ever, for example) because none of us takes the initiative. We'll go out to dinner or things around our anniversary. But it's not really something I/we schedule, and he just says after the fact that it was for celebrating our anniversary. I am not a good planner so that's why I look to him to take initiative or make decisions, but I don't think he finds this quite fair and that maybe I should get out of my comfort zones a bit. *shrug*
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