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Old 09-17-2008, 04:09 AM   #31 (permalink)
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While I agree that it can be a form of infidelity, it isn't always.

I think that viewing porn is fine, until it reaches the point of obsession. Some can manage it, others can't. Others find it a temporary obsession and are able to move on once they see their reality.

The article mentions Second Life and similar sites. While I was still married, I had an online sexual relationship through one of these sies because I needed the validation and wasn't willing to admit the marriage was failing fast. Somehow my husband had found out (or maybe I told him, I truly don't remember) and confronted me and I recall defending my actions, saying it wasn't cheating. It did hurt him. Looking back now, I can see that it had become an obsession and was cheating. My intent was self-gratification, body and soul, because I wasn't getting it from my marriage.

Although I still view porn sometimes, most of those times are with the man I love. I'm no longer obsessed. At least for now.

Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't.
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