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We're pretty 50/50. He likes to take the lead sometimes, I do other times.
He likes when I lead, and he does a great job of rolling with the punches. I'm not enitrely confident making large life-altering decisions, but he has me making them for us anyway. For instance, I chose where we'll be going to graduate school. I applied, I got in, I chose to go. This will relocate us halfway across the country, but he's only excited about it. Now that I've firmed up everything I needed on my end, he has decided to apply for his grad program at the same school. It's delightfully disturbing to me when he has me make a decision like this one. I am so unaccustomed to it, it feels wonderful when he tells me I've made a great choice and gets motivated about my decision.
In the day-to-day: He makes decisions about finances, but always seems to run things by me first. I make decisions about what to do on weekends for about half of the year, while he dictates the bulk of our weekend schedules during football and basketball seasons. When it comes to laundry, he and I trade off. Dishes? Whoever cooks doesn't clean up. Cooking, then? We both enjoy it, usually we cook together. General cleaning? I find it theraputic, so he doesn't do much unless I'm ill. Working a regular job? Both/neither.
Who wears the pants? I like to say that he does. He likes to say that I do.
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