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Originally Posted by Jozrael
I've used a condom...twice? I've had sex a good deal more than that. I've only been with one girl, we were each other's firsts, and she's on the pill. However, recently, we stopped having sex because if we should conceive, I realized I wasn't prepared to abort a baby and that if it DID happen, that is what I'd be forced to do to continue the quality of life of me and my SO. Regardless of condom on top or not.
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Good on you for thinking through what you'd be prepared to deal with or not... that's some seriously responsible action you're taking there.
But I will say that honestly, if she is on the pill and you are using condoms, I really don't think you have to completely abstain. I mean sure, it's the only truly 100% safe alternative to sex, but BC + condoms is pretty damn near impossible to get through (assuming she is using them perfectly, and you are using the condoms perfectly).
Again, though, many people thought we were paranoid for doubling up on that for 3.5 years of a monogamous, STD-free relationship, and I just couldn't explain it to them. It made sense to me and my husband. So if this decision makes sense to you and your partner, and you feel okay with it, then hey... no one else needs to understand it.
