I must be the exception here. I actually don't mind using condoms at all ever since I've found the perfect combination of condom size and lubricant. The difference between rubber an natural is so small that it's barely perceptible. I'm also in the camp that doesn't like any form of contraception which alters the body's chemistry both for me and my partner.
The last GF however HATED condoms like the plague! So after a couple of months, she went on the pill and we went "au naturel" from then on. After a couple of years, she had to drop the pill because of the increasing side-effects. We then switched to a diaphragm and spemicide. Unfortunately, any contact between the spermicide and my urethra would cause a painful burning sensation. So it became vitally important that I urinate quickly after ejaculating otherwise the jelly would creep in and cause a few hours of discomfort.
Pretty soon, the risk of pregnancy in a stable relationship will no longer be a concern. That's because I'm arriving in the age bracket where Mother Nature will provide its own form of birth control in the form of menopause.
I love what the essay is trying to figure out. In fact, the use of the pill in our relationship did serve as an indication of our increasing commitment. If we were still "fucking around" with others, we wouldn't even think of taking chances with unprotected sex. The pill was clearly an indication to us that we had no desires to be involved with anyone else.