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Originally Posted by Catdaddy33
Jinn nailed it and much better than I could actually write.
I don't have a son so I can't speak to how I would react but I think the ole double standard applies for many with the "boys can take care of themselves" attitude. My folks turned me loose and had no curfew as long as I called in to tell them where I was, of course I was never where I said I was...
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I don't know about that. My dad certainly didn't have that attitude; if he did, he never expressed it to me beyond as a joke (and I knew it was a joke). The expectation was that I could be trusted to take care of myself, and I did. I was raised to be able to take care of myself, so I don't think my parents ever had to worry about some guy trying to take advantage of me. I think they worried more about me kicking some guy in the nuts if he tried.
And abaya, I barely went to church at all as a teen, but still didn't give in to any kind of peer pressure. Never drank in high school beyond what my parents allowed me to have at home. That rave I went to? I was the only one in the group whose parents knew where she was, and the only one who stayed sober all night. I didn't get intimate with any guy until after high school. The key was that my parents were there for me, all the time, willing to talk to me about anything and everything. But above all, they trusted me to do the right thing, and because we were so close, I wouldn't have violated or broken that trust for anything in the world.