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Old 09-10-2008, 09:13 AM   #37 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by Catdaddy33 View Post
but I think the ole double standard applies for many with the "boys can take care of themselves" attitude.
Well, that's basically what I'm getting at... and thanks also for admitting this honestly.

Can we as modern parents (or at least for me, future parent ) get beyond this double standard somehow?... either by being more strict with our sons, or less strict with our daughters? I really don't see much use for the double standard, other than to reinforce traditional gender expectations that often persist into adulthood.

Catdaddy--my parents put no curfew on me, and I had my own car from age 16--my parents really did not care where I was, because it was usually at church. Thing is, I was a Jesus freak, so there was no way in hell anyone would be persuading me to do anything against those morals (I converted my own parents). However, I don't want to have to send my children to church just so that they can become strong-willed and resist peer-pressure, and/or to learn self-discipline and moderation when thinking about having sex, etc. What alternatives can we offer children of both genders, equally?
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