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Originally Posted by abaya
I guess what I dislike about fathers wanting to lock up their daughters and "protect their innocence," is that it's just so much like the old days of daughters being their father's "property" until they were "given" to their husbands in marriage. Is that really, truly how you guys want it to be? You don't want any man touching her until she gets married?  |
I get this. It's the complete antithesis of modern feminist theory and it's really a regressive rather than progressive behavior. I can say that intellectually I want to avoid this "Purity Ball", protect her virginity like property Father nonsense. But when it comes to down to the base emotion, the raw gut feeling I get, it just makes me uncomfortable. As unfair as it may be, I have the perception that young women are more easily manipulated to do something they don't want to do than their male peers, and likewise more often taken advantage of. Likewise, there is a broad spectrum of a woman's sexuality from whore to prude, and if I were given the choice I'd like to ensure that my daughter at least aimed higher in the spectrum than lower, particularly since her sexual behavior would still under my indirect control as a minor.
The other issue is that many VISIBLE male behaviors are manifestations of far -far-far worse internal thoughts, and men are capable of understanding the raw (and unfortunate) carnality of recently pubescent young men, as they were there, once. Women can see the displayed behavior, but only hazard a guess at what the young boy is really thinking when he says that they're just "going to a movie."