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Old 09-10-2008, 04:25 AM   #29 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by Poppinjay View Post
Abaya, you will not ever get it, just like men don't get .... well... a lot of stuff.
Uh, well... thanks. But I still want to get it, because I never encountered this kind of behavior from my own dad, and ktsp doesn't have very strong opinions about it, either (though of course we don't have a daughter yet--but he wasn't "one of those guys to keep away from," so maybe that has something to do with it).

I "got" my mom being paranoid about men... that seemed normal to me, because she was a woman, and she was scared of strange men. I still think she overreacted, and I didn't like it... but I see that it did more good than harm. I didn't feel "owned" by her.

I guess what I dislike about fathers wanting to lock up their daughters and "protect their innocence," is that it's just so much like the old days of daughters being their father's "property" until they were "given" to their husbands in marriage. Is that really, truly how you guys want it to be? You don't want any man touching her until she gets married?
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