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Old 09-09-2008, 04:09 AM   #15 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by Crompsin View Post
(round two of Jorge-query) What's a valid reason to cheat? Perhaps being too spineless to end a relationship in the disposable-couples culture that makes up Western relationships?
Okay, simmer down Tiger! What I mean by "valid" is not that it is morally justifiable/right, but that there are serious problems with the relationship (on both sides) that lead a person to believe that cheating is the something okay to do. Say the cheater is being emotionally and physically neglected, and doesn't have the self-awareness/wherewithal/TFP advice to seek out counseling and sort out their issues before screwing up their marriage, etc. I see this as being a more "valid" reason than, say... being bored, jealous, or wanting to fuck up the marriage, or for the reason you give above. Doesn't mean it's right--I don't think any cheating is "right," for any reason--but it's something that is a little more understandable than someone who is just doing it to be vindictive, get their kicks, etc. My two cents, as usual.
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