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Lubeboy, I'm a cultural anthropologist. I study this kind of a thing for a living (though technically not getting paid for it right now ). What I did in my last post is try to explain to you WHY people tend to associate in these kinds of patterns--an explanation only--the term in the literature is actually called "assortative mating." Nowhere did I say that they "should" or shouldn't do this... that would be a judgment. I am just trying to answer to your statement that this kind of thinking is "narrow minded"--when in fact it is no more "narrow" than someone simply being heterosexual, because that is what they are comfortable being and identifying as. They are not going to become gay just to be more "open minded." It's an identity thing, not an attitude thing.

I'm not sure if you are aware of this, but my parents were from different countries, ethnicities, religions--and I also married someone from a different country, ethnicity, and religion. So you're preaching to the choir when you're talking to me about this issue, alright?

Anyway, what I was trying to say is that this kind of intercultural marriage (exogamy) is relatively rare, compared to the more normative types of endogamy. The same goes for gay couples; I am extremely supportive of their right to marry and have equal rights and raise children--but as a social scientist, my job is to examine all types of human behavior, and I will tell you that gay couples AND intercultural couples (among many other combinations of people in long-term relationships) are outliers in a social-scientific sense (using a "normal curve"). Does that mean I judge them? Far from it. But I still have to explain the phenomenon when I write reports, etc.

Hope that makes more sense.

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