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Originally Posted by pkeigs
I have been dating this girl for about 3 months now and she is really great. I know she has suffered from depression and has some issues but I am willing to look past that. Anyways she told me that she has a really tough time with September and that she has had most of her anxiety attacks during this month. We went to breakfast this morning and it seemed like things were going alright but I dropped her off and she told me this afternoon that she had an anxiety attack. She has shut me out and has been really quit this afternoon and almost a little mean towards me. I don't really know how to approach the situation and would love some advice.
Thanks
Patrick
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Here is the deal Pat. She wasn't being mean; well, perhaps she was, but if she was feeling anxious it had nothing to do with you. When someone is having an anxiety attack, the easiest thing to do is to just do what makes them comfortable; most of the time that means leaving them be. I'm assuming, that since you don't understand you are going off the deep end tryng to be comforting and understanding but that, for someone who is feeling anxious, just makes them feel crowded and they often lash out in the moment because they are freaking out. Also, anxiety attacks are an on goig occurrence, in that if one happens in the day, especially when you're young, will continue to have little after shocks, if you will, for the remainder of the day.
A big, nay, HUGE, problem here is that you are trying to be distantly supportive of something you don't understand. Like "She has a load of issues but I like her in spite of it". Everyone has issues man; how about learning about it, and then approaching it with an educated opinion. A lot of people suffer from nurosis and psychotic behavior and you're certainly not the first one to have to deal with a partner with it.
So deal with it; know what I mean?