We love you, WK, but we know who you really are.
Could it be that you show new women see the bitter and impatient side of you and, hence, don't give them the opportunity to see the rest of you?
I wonder why you think it's about your grooming. I'm not 25 but my daughter is. I've seen her date well-dressed guys and some shlumpy-looking guys.
The difference between dating and fucking? If you see one another on a somewhat regular basis and do something more than fuck, you're probably dating.