noodle

Don't write off women with kids.
Just the chicks with kids.
Some moms are awesome.

I never got the whole "are we dating?" thing. To me and friends I've had this discussion with, "dating" includes going places together that you enjoy, fun things, etc. rather than just "hooking up" or drunk dialing for booty calls.
Women are weird. Men are weird. Put them together and who knows what's going to happen.
"Clingy" has been, in my experience, a euphemism for something else or an excuse to get away for a bit. And rarely has it been used legitimately.
Except for the guy I caught in my underwear drawer the second time we met.
He was clingy. And on wiki if you look under bat-shit-crazy.
You know, WK, more women than not appreciate a man that takes care of himself, has pride in his appearance and others' perceptions of him.
Ego can be sexy or it can be a major turnoff.
It sounds like you're not meeting people of your caliber in the locations you choose.
That is the hardest part of dating, in my opinon... where the hell are you supposed to meet people?
Good luck.

And, I'm going to second the pull-your-pants up thing... it's the Law here. Cops can ticket you.

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