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I have a great girlfriend right now, and we have a ton of incredible sex. That said, I still rub one out at least a couple of times a week, no harm, no foul.
Partly, it's just 'cause I'm so horny. But also, it's 'cause I like to j/o. It's quality "me" time, completely different than sex. If I'm having sex it's because I want to be intimate with the person I'm having sex with: it's about experiencing them, being with them. But if I'm shaking hands with the ol' pocket monster, it's because I want to relax, fantasize, play around by myself (with myself). Apples and oranges, my friend.
I have always been up-front in my relationships that I j/o, and it has nothing to do with the gf. And I have never yet been with a girl that minded: the reactions have generally run the gamut from "Sure, I understand, I'm the same way" to *smile, roll eyes, shake head with mock exasperation, and say* "Fuckin' horndog!"
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Dull sublunary lovers love,
Whose soul is sense, cannot admit
Absence, because it doth remove
That thing which elemented it.
(From "A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning" by John Donne)
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