Thread: Lonely in Life
View Single Post
Old 09-03-2008, 05:34 AM   #8 (permalink)
Nisses
Shade
 
Nisses's Avatar
 
Location: Belgium
Iliftrocks, I would wager to say you're in your quarter-life crisis a bit early (been a few threads here about that, and they're still around)

From what I can tell, you're still in college, your friends have started to actually work, and you're left behind a bit for the last couple of months/year, riding out your education.
That to me would explain your bitterness about friends hanging by a thin thread, and asking what it's all worth.

In short, that to me explains your attitude and POV. You've lost your sense of belonging to a specific group and you've lost a direction.




I've had the same thing happen to me, but oddly (I have alot of odd things I suppose) I had that happen before the friends drifted apart.
At a certain point, right before the last exams were about to start, I realised that all the people I'd hung out with for the last 4 years, were about to leave my life. Even alot of people I would have wanted to keep communications up with. Most people didn't understand what I meant or was going through really.

Then the exams came, then the internships started. Then the internships ended and we graduated... And lo and behold, there were 3 people left from college that I still spoke to on more than a monthly basis.

Then a reunion came, and as I expected, by then most had experienced it as well, and in the very same way, most barely spoke to eachother anymore.
I guess that's why reunions were invented?

What got me over this is the fact that I still did have friends, alot of them, just not through school. I had friends from childhood, I had friends in a book/gaming/roleplaying group, I had friends in my home-town left from highschool.

The fact is that everybody after college needs to start something.

Some people build up relationships at work again, which tend to last a good deal longer than college ones, some people tend to go back to people they met before college.
In each case, what you get out of relationships, even the shallow ones, is a social network.

And no person is an island. (I myself am a peninsula. I can stand people, but in short bursts )


Or to put it in more immortal words: This too shall pass.
__________________
Moderation should be moderately moderated.
Nisses is offline  
 

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 48 49 50 51 52 53 54 55 56 57 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 65 66 67 68 69 70 71 72 73 74 75 76 77 78 79 80 81 82 83 84 85 86 87 88 89 90 91 92 93 94 95 96 97 98 99 100 101 102 103 104 105 106 107 108 109 110 111 112 113 114 115 116 117 118 119 120 121 122 123 124 125 126 127 128 129 130 131 132 133 134 135 136 137 138 139 140 141 142 143 144 145 146 147 148 149 150 151 152 153 154 155 156 157 158 159 160 161 162 163 164 165 166 167 168 169 170 171 172 173 174 175 176 177 178 179 180 181 182 183 184 185 186 187 188 189 190 191 192 193 194 195 196 197 198 199 200 201 202 203 204 205 206 207 208 209 210 211 212 213 214 215 216 217 218 219 220 221 222 223 224 225 226 227 228 229 230 231 232 233 234 235 236 237 238 239 240 241 242 243 244 245 246 247 248 249 250 251 252 253 254 255 256 257 258 259 260 261 262 263 264 265 266 267 268 269 270 271 272 273 274 275 276 277 278 279 280 281 282 283 284 285 286 287 288 289 290 291 292 293 294 295 296 297 298 299 300 301 302 303 304 305 306 307 308 309 310 311 312 313 314 315 316 317 318 319 320 321 322 323 324 325 326 327 328 329 330 331 332 333 334 335 336 337 338 339 340 341 342 343 344 345 346 347 348 349 350 351 352 353 354 355 356 357 358 359 360