Originally Posted by elsesomebody

Thanks abaya. I think its great advice. I see my sister-in-law a few times a year. Obviously the feelings are strongest before during and after being around her or even talking to her online. I can basically rule out the chemical thing, unless the anticipation of the chemical reaction brings as strong of a response (which isn't unrealistic when you consider chemical dependency).

I also have an addiction to pornography/masturbation (which I'm also trying to overcome). I would not be surprised if the addiction is at least partially a chemical dependency. The point being that whether its chemical or just personality, I think there is a common flaw causing both of these problems.