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Acetylene · 08-26-2008, 06:43 PM

The "in love" feelings have been excessively over-emphasized by our popular culture. The vast majority of music and romance movies have that initial infatuation as the central focus. I can count on my fingers the number of songs about a long-term relationship.

Let's face it, those feelings are fun but they're there to get us to spread seed.

You are going to have to rise above this aspect of your animal nature if you want to have a wife, even if you divorce the one yuo have now for the sister. Another girl will come along and catch your eye -- maybe not as strongly, but that's probably just because you see the sister all the time and have a history with her. Cut yourself off from her now! Cold turkey! If she talks to you, be polite and nothing more. This is normally how people relate to their in-laws anyway.

You may not ever get the "in love" feeling back again with your wife, at least not like it used to be. THIS IS OK and doesn't mean your relationship is dead! Love is about a LOT more than infatuation. To remind yourself about why you made the choice to commit to this long-term project (because marriage is an ongoing project requiring regular maintenance and effort, like a beautiful flowering plant), spend more fun time with your wife, as was recommended above.

No one's yet mentioned the sex thing, I think, so I will... There's no need to be bored after only 4 years! Find something you've never done. Visit the Adopt-a-Kink thread and pick something exciting! Talk to your wife when she's had a glass of wine and a nice evening with you about what she might be willing to try, and then go for it!

Enjoy! And don't give that other girl a second thought. She's just one of a parade of temptations that you meet as part of your everyday life. File her next to the Triple Whopper as "tempting but unhealthy".

08-26-2008, 06:43 PM	#38 (permalink)
Acetylene Addict Location: under a rock	The "in love" feelings have been excessively over-emphasized by our popular culture. The vast majority of music and romance movies have that initial infatuation as the central focus. I can count on my fingers the number of songs about a long-term relationship. Let's face it, those feelings are fun but they're there to get us to spread seed. You are going to have to rise above this aspect of your animal nature if you want to have a wife, even if you divorce the one yuo have now for the sister. Another girl will come along and catch your eye -- maybe not as strongly, but that's probably just because you see the sister all the time and have a history with her. Cut yourself off from her now! Cold turkey! If she talks to you, be polite and nothing more. This is normally how people relate to their in-laws anyway. You may not ever get the "in love" feeling back again with your wife, at least not like it used to be. THIS IS OK and doesn't mean your relationship is dead! Love is about a LOT more than infatuation. To remind yourself about why you made the choice to commit to this long-term project (because marriage is an ongoing project requiring regular maintenance and effort, like a beautiful flowering plant), spend more fun time with your wife, as was recommended above. No one's yet mentioned the sex thing, I think, so I will... There's no need to be bored after only 4 years! Find something you've never done. Visit the Adopt-a-Kink thread and pick something exciting! Talk to your wife when she's had a glass of wine and a nice evening with you about what she might be willing to try, and then go for it! Enjoy! And don't give that other girl a second thought. She's just one of a parade of temptations that you meet as part of your everyday life. File her next to the Triple Whopper as "tempting but unhealthy". __________________ There's no justice. There's just us.