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Originally Posted by kutulu
The absolute worst thing you could do is bring this up to your sister in law. Seriously, that makes no sense.
The idea of a 'secret mostly non-physical semi-platonic friendship' is garbage. Even if you could pull that off it eventually would lead to "oops, my dick was accidentally inserted into you"
I say you need to reevaluate your marriage. Is this what you want? Is it worth fighting for? If so then get in counselling.
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Thank you for the best advice so far.
Telling either your wife, or your SIL is a recipe for disaster.
No good will come of it. All that will happen is that your wife will freak out and will be very hurt (if you tell her) or your SIL will freak out and quite possibly tell your wife (if you tell your SIL). Even if you and your wife stay together, she'll never trust you again - ever.
Keep your mouth shut on this one. If you have to tell anyone, make sure it's a shrink because anyone else will eventually blab and it will get back to your wife, and then you're in even more trouble.
You're just going to have to get over it.
Even if you ended your marriage, your odds of hooking up with SIL are slim to nil and even if you did, you'd only be making the situation worse.
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Originally Posted by abaya
Lasereth: what if the wife has already asked, "Are you in love with my sister?" Wouldn't you say that she already knows exactly what is going on, and should not be treated as if she is clueless from this point on?
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Lasereth is BANG on with his advice (and I posted the same advice before reading his take on it.)
If his wife asks, "Are you in love with my sister?"
Answer, "No fucking way, are you nuts?"
Deny it to the bitter end. She may suspect, but she'll never be SURE until he either does the dumb thing and confesses, or she catches him with his pants down (literally). (Which odds are isn't going to happen anyway since odds are the SIL doesn't share the feelings.) No sense in getting killed over an affair that has not yet happened, and most likely never will (because SIL won't go for it.)